tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11568193.post5538898691141748790..comments2023-08-26T11:24:15.277-04:00Comments on Havoc and Mayhem: My past has caught up with meComfyMom~Staceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15645425225886356909noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11568193.post-16648500609462460292011-01-13T07:06:26.893-05:002011-01-13T07:06:26.893-05:00Oh, Stacey, I hope he asks and that you say yes an...Oh, Stacey, I hope he asks and that you say yes and that it turns into a wonderful experience. I knew nothing much about soccer (or trains) before DS was born, but when he decided that was his obsession, we went along with it, and it has been a wonderful ride. It kindof reminds me of the time before I decided I wanted to have kids telling (an older) coworker that I didn't want to take time away from being a couple to pay attention to someone else. She laughed and said "your husband will only love you more, and you will have more time together - just in a different way." She was right. And I feel the same way about my kid and sports.<br />DS and I have shared so many happy times together and have created so many special memories around soccer, baseball and basketball. You are so obviously a great mom and love your kids like crazy. I'm sure you would have a great time with him in LL baseball or any other sport.<br />And IMHO, there's absolutely nothing wrong with reading a book, knitting, or playing iphone scrabble during the game. Nor is there anything wrong with dropping the kid off at practice or missing one of his games b/c your daughter is having a party that day.<br />Finally, you must have gritted your teeth through all the baseball pix and posts on my blog! LOL!<br />RindaRindahttp://gallorganico.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11568193.post-33135532074550752862011-01-13T07:06:26.178-05:002011-01-13T07:06:26.178-05:00Oohhh... waves of sympathy! I didn't have a sp...Oohhh... waves of sympathy! I didn't have a sport-mad brother, luckily for me, and money prevented either me or my sister having hobbies that were too pricey. She rode ponies, I did ballet classes and that was that. <br />However, I have a son, who did join the school football club on Saturday mornings. His dad signed up to help coach and all term-time Saturdays were busy with football - afternoons with recovery. He now goes to a club on Saturdays, which offers them a choice of 6-week courses each term, with an all-day workshop on the 7th week. So 7 weeks in each school term are dominated by Frontiers Club. We have to plan weekends away round the club, also his increasing homework burden. <br /><br />But you know what? I don't mind. I thought I would - especially when the football started. Yet I found I actually rather enjoyed standing beside the pitch in the cold, watching a "herd of cats" swarming round a small white & black object, up & down the pitch (D. called the 1st-year football "herding cats" because they had no sense of team play and just ran about after the ball, kicking indiscriminately whenever they though they might be near the ball!). I didn't go to matches if it was too cold (asthma), but didn't mind standing around nearly as much as I thought I would. <br />Mind you, it never got particularly serious. J. is not a team-sport kid, nor is he very athletic. He enjoyed football practice and having a go at matches, but he never made the first team and didn't really care about that. He gave up before he started middle school, then moved on to his other club, where I have to drop him off and pick him up - the rest is up to him and his tutors. <br /><br />It is a bit intrusive at times, but J. gets so much out of it that I find myself more grateful than irritated by having to plan around the club days. <br /><br />Homework is far more intrusive than Frontiers Club. I do mind that - it seems very unnecessary to pile them up with homework from a young age. My DH rarely brings work home with him - why do the kids have so much, when they work hard in school all day long? And why do they have so many projects in the school "holidays", when they should be resting and recuperating for the next term? <br /><br />Why do we work them so hard in their growning years? They need to learn to work hard, but surely they also need some time with their families, to learn about family life, love, sharing, having fun - all the really important things if they will be happy in their future lives?LizzieMadenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11568193.post-81094800157613829212011-01-13T07:06:25.634-05:002011-01-13T07:06:25.634-05:00Same thing up here with hockey in the winters: it ...Same thing up here with hockey in the winters: it swallows weekends whole, and if you're into tournaments and travel teams you're looking at September to April, minimum. Let's not even talk about 5am weekday practices. I've got the same concerns, selfishly not because of childhood trauma (I was kicked out of house league at 8 for putting a kid on a stretcher - true story) but because I can't imagine sacrificing that much time.SciFi Dadhttp://talesfromthedadside.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com